INSAR 2019: Gender, Sexuality, and Romantic Relationships

Today’s INSAR 2019 Special Interest Group (SIG) on Gender, Sexuality, and Romantic Relationships was led by Laura Graham Holmes and Jeroen Dewinter, and co-led by Anna van der Miesen. Essentially, relationships and sexuality are central to everyone’s health and well-being. But there isn’t enough useful research and materials available fo autistic people of all ages and abilities, their families, and healthcare professionals, and many have expressed the need for research and guidance. So that’s what the SIG leaders and the participants in this well-attended session talked about. Any errors or omissions in the highlights below are on us. SIG participants Sara L, Dori Z, Jac dH, and Christina N, in discussion [image: Four people of varying gender identities and neurotypes, talking at a conference table.] Last year’s Gender, Sexuality, and Romantic Relationships INSAR SIG was about determining the most important issues for the autistic community, in terms of gender and…

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Identifying Good People and Avoiding Bad People: How Can an Autistic Person Stay Safe?

Photo © Dee Teal | Flickr/Creative Commons license [image: Blonde white teen girl whispering into the ear of an adult white woman with long brown hair and bangs.] Maxfield Sparrow unstrangemind.com It started as a tweet from @frogautistic to my friend, Shannon: “Would you know of any guides for adult autistics wanting to differentiate between Good & Bad people.” Shannon replied: Some #actuallyautistic guidance from @unstrangemind (who probably has more to say, if he has time): Be wary of people who treat autistic people differently in person than they do via written communications: https://t.co/9u4OM2fEI0 https://t.co/g1f0CMnzYK — Shannon Rosa (@shannonrosa) December 28, 2017  [image: Tweet from @shannonrosa, reading, “Some #actuallyautistic guidance from @unstrangemind (who probably has more to say, if he has time): Be wary of people who treat autistic people differently in person than they do via written communications”] Shannon’s response included a link to my TPGA article about social reciprocity, in…

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Why To Siri With Love Is a Wrecking Ball of a Book

Maxfield Sparrow unstrangemind.com [Content note: possible triggers include: forcible sterilization of minorities including Autistic people, forcible gynecological experimentation on minorities, Judge Rotenberg Center, electric shock, stereotypes about Autistics lacking empathy or a sense of humor, stereotypes about Autistics or Black people lacking the ability to feel pain, snakes and feeding live rodents, harmful Supreme Court verdicts, dehumanizing of Autists, getting drunk, preferring drunkenness to talking with Autistic children, humanizing the author of a grossly dehumanizing book.] Come mothers and fathers / Throughout the land  And don’t criticize / What you can’t understand  Your sons and your daughters / Are beyond your command  Your old road is rapidly aging.  Please get out of the new one / If you can’t lend your hand  For the times they are a-changin’.  -Bob Dylan [image: Book cover: A blue background with informal font white text reading, “To Siri With Love,” with a photo of a…