img_8110-2611197

On Gratitude (For New Autism Parents)

Shannon Des Roches Rosa www.Squidalicious.com My son Leo has passed the eleven and a half years mark. I feel like I’m finally hitting my stride as an autism parent, in terms of accepting Leo on his own terms, and not giving a damn about the imaginary “easier” alternate reality society thinks I’m supposed to pine after. This means I think a lot about the information and attitudes I’d have wanted to jack, Neuromancer-style, straight into my brain eight years ago so I could instantly be the parent Leo needed me to be. And that’s silly — neural enhancements aside — because instant downloads do not equal instant attitude adjustments. There’s often no substitute for experience constructed out of progressive, natural epiphanies. Still, that experience can be altered dramatically by external factors, like consistent exposure to positive attitudes and helpful perspectives; they shape our final outlook as parents and as people.…